Hemali AdhiyaBefore understanding relationship coaching, let’s understand the concept of coaching. For some time now, people have accepted counseling and help from therapists. Although, that was a tough fight in itself to support a large population to overcome the taboo of counseling and mental health disorders. But coaching is still finding its way into the population. If only people understand that coaching isn’t just a few sessions, but a transformational journey. That’s what I attempt to explain in this article.
Relationship problems aren’t less heard of. They’re everywhere (probably even you’re dealing with one right now as you read through). Do you also speak to friends/other people to seek advice for your relationship issues? And where is that getting you? Maybe you feel better for a while, and find temporary solutions, but things are back where they started.
Wouldn’t you want a more permanent solution to deal with life, relationships, and their problems? If you’re saying yes, you need a coach!
What is Relationship Coaching?
Interestingly, people are opting for relationship coaching not just as a couple, but also as individuals who want to fix their side of the story in their relationships. Sometimes, we know it all but still know nothing. Pushing someone from that state of feeling blank or in darkness to find their own light is what a coach does. Powerful enough already, right?
Coaching is the process of powerful sessions that doesn’t find its base in core psychology but more in success platforms that aim at working on solutions. Coaching is 100% client-focused. It is that sense of fulfillment one looks for in their life, and that is derived from their own self. There are no feeding answers, there’s no advising, there are just powerful sessions that lead to breakthroughs leading to transformations you didn’t even know were possible.
10 Things to Remember About Relationship Coaching
1. Coaching is client-focused
Coaching works on the client as a whole as opposed to finding triggers. The focus is always on finding where they are in the present and focusing on the future. While relationship coaching does offer the space to identify problems and overcome them, it all happens with the client always being the center of attention.
2. Improves Routine Lives
Every single session of relationship coaching is powerful in different ways. It helps you explore things about yourself that even you didn’t know existed. Through these sessions, you realize all the things you can refocus on in your life, and work towards the goal you want to achieve. Over time, it improves routine life since everything you learned about yourself helps you perform better in every area of your life, even after you’re no longer taking sessions.
3. Addresses Issues, Overcomes Barriers
When in a relationship coaching session, the coachee always knows it is all about them. The comfort space allows them to find the deepest of their issues. But it doesn’t end there. Coaching is not about finding problems, it is about finding solutions. It is during these powerful sessions that you find ways to overcome your barriers in the present and benefit from there in the future.
4. Helps Identify and Achieve Goals
Let’s get this clear, once again. Coaching isn’t for talking about problems. Coaching is for setting goals and working towards achieving them. But several times, we know something is lacking, and instead of letting it pass, we decide to identify what it is and resolve it. That’s what relationship coaching offers too. It helps identify what it is that is lacking and then create a structured plan that comes with introspection to achieve those goals.
5. Overcome Barriers; Identify Skills; Feel Motivated
Listen to people testify about their relationship coaching sessions, and you’ll find how motivated they feel after every session. That’s what these sessions do. It helps you remember what it is that is stopping you, what it is that you’re best at, and why you shouldn’t let anyone tell you differently. With every session, you’ll find how your barriers are no longer in your path and how your skills that remained overshadowed now shine!
6. Beneficial for Singles and Couples
When you hear the word relationship coaching, you may, by default, compare it with couples counseling. While both are impactful, relationship coaching needn’t always be for couples. You could be a single who wishes to overcome some issues that affect your relationships. Or, you could be a couple sailing through a rough patch and wish to sail smoothly together. You could also be either of the partners from a relationship who wishes to work on some areas of your life that come in the way of a happy relationship.
7. Transforms you into your BEST self
What do motivational sessions do? They make you feel strong enough from within to try and succeed at something. Now imagine having repeated sessions of relationship coaching, and then becoming so self-aware of the wonderful things you have discovered about yourself that you transform into your BEST self. Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? Relationship coaching offers you your best version because that is who you choose to become in your relationships.
8. Makes one Independent and proud of milestones
Relationship coaching teaches you to become more independent to handle all minor to major issues once you go through your sessions. It also teaches you that what may look normal, ordinary, or unimportant to somebody else is very important and above ordinary for you. So, it molds you into celebrating even the littlest of the milestones in life. It could be as little as being about to communicate your feelings without feeling guilty or afraid. It is a problem you have overcome, and your coach will clap and be with you through this progress.
9. Fixes What is in Our Control
People expect the impossible, sometimes. From helping you set a realistic goal to finding that we can only fix the things in our control is what you’ll discover in your relationship coaching session. For example, you cannot cite this problem, “My partner isn’t the same anymore.” Is your partner in your control? No! This works only when you’re in for couple’s coaching, and when both partners address it as a common goal that they want to revive their old feelings. That’s a goal
Coaching leads with, “I want to find my space in my relationship.” You see, that’s a goal! And that is something in your hands.
10. Fixes deepest Relationship Problems
Whether you want to improve the communication in your relationship, rebuild the intimacy, be more supportive of your partner/anyone else, or overcome an affair, grief, or loyalty issues- relationship coaching helps you work through it all. You wouldn’t even imagine the kind of things that you will explore through these sessions that help you overcome the deepest of the relationship problems. If you believe in solutions, there is one!
In short, relationship coaching takes you through a journey of finding yourself more than anything else. They are hours of deep thoughts, introspection, and finding answers that you’ve always been looking for. More than anything else, you need to remember, that you will not be fed with answers. You will be coached to find what is best for you, create a plan to achieve it, and then celebrate the achievement. The process is similar to counseling, with assessments, questions, and deep thinking!
If you’re looking for relationship coaching, feel free to reach out to me at thelovesmitten@gmail.com for details! These days, I am also offering one session free every four sessions, making it a more profound journey.
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